Nicoa shoots it straight in this episode! What DO YOU WANT? When you don't like what you see this Espresso Shot helps focus you in another direction. Yep. Stop looking over there, look somewhere else! A satisfying Life By Design is all up to YOU!
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sometimes don't you just need a quick moment of inspiration. Or maybe you just need a moment of caffeinated contemplation to reflect on life. That's the idea behind my weekly coffee with Nicola espresso shots. I'll be sharing short jolts of inspiration in each clip. In addition to my longer Coffee with Nicoa interview episodes, make sure to subscribe so you never miss an espresso shot, or a full length Coffee with Nicoa interview created just for you. And good morning to you. This is Nicoa with your weekly espresso shot. I sound like I'm a radio announcer. And I got this mic in front of me. I just love doing these. Anyway, to the topic at hand, would you please stop looking there, please stop looking at what is that is bothering you. Please stop looking at what is frustrating you please stop looking at what is annoying. You please stop looking over there. Look over here. Look over here. Everybody, seriously, you got to figure this out. Because what is frustrating you and where you're focusing and ruminating and spending way too much time analyzing and talking about it with your friends, and calling up your best friend and whining over a glass of wine? Uh huh. Whining in that glass of wine. They say in positive psychology, that the only way that actually helps you and makes you feel better, is if you wine over your glass of wine, and then you and your best friend, figure out some solutions. How will I handle this next time? What do I want to do about it? Can I actually solve this situation? Or do I need to distract myself? Socrates says the secret of change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old, but building the new, not on fighting the old building the new. So my advice here is, can you take a look at what is accept it, and then figure out what you want it to be. And if you can't get it to be what you want it to be in this moment, then go look somewhere else. You know, when we move away from what is to what can be, we need to recognize that focusing on what is is actually a waste of our time trying to clarify it or make sure of it or defend what is or figure out how we can understand better why we are where we are now. Sure, it's important to learn our lessons about why we find ourselves in certain situations. But don't hang out there. For God's sakes, what do you want to do about it? Life is way too short. I mean, this is my energy. This is kind of how I'm observing my clients myself, I get a little frustrated with what is sometimes so much so that I'm like, okay, what can I do today, to either make myself feel better about what is help validate my emotions around what is. And then if I've got the energy, start creating co creating something to do about it. And so what we mean is, who cares about what is at a certain point, you're just gonna have to give up on it. And talk about where you can create, collaborate, commit to moving toward what can be, even if that's just a brainstorming session with yourself, or your best friend over a glass of wine. And oh, by the way, when you move into that space and put your attention, and you start looking towards the future, the vision of what you hope for what you envision what you dream of what you want to plan for, oh, man, it's so much more fun and inspiring and energizing and motivating too. So stop looking over there and start looking over there. Doesn't that feel so much better? This is your journaling prompt for the week. Where do I need to stop looking? And why do I need to start looking toward Okay, espresso shot for you. Thanks for listening and don't forget to subscribe so you can hear the next episode of Coffee with Nicoa That's me. Make sure to subscribe so you never miss an espresso shot or a full length Coffee with Nicoa interview created just for you.